People can grow from a multitude of different obstacles they overcame, but the growth I experienced called for a unique journey. About six years ago, my parents announced they were getting a divorce. Being the youngest out of 3 girls, I was the one most affected. The following years were, without a doubt, not how I would have imagined my life ending up. Although some people may fear to talk about their past, I am proud of the Sofia I was then and the Sofia I am now. I refuse to push aside who I truly was just because I had not been the accomplished women I am today. Due to the strength I have received from my past experiences, I am able to acknowledge my feelings and emotions to convey my story.
So here is my life-altering journey. I was extremely rebellious, belligerent towards every person in my life, treated everybody as if they were my enemy, and began abusing substances. I was not allowed back to my high school to start my senior year unless I attended Aspiro, a wilderness therapeutic program. I was 18 at the time, so legally it was necessary that I signed myself into the program to begin my journey. I constantly resisted in the beginning, but I had no other choice because the alternative was to see myself go down a road of failure. It took me 24 hours of being curled up under my blankets with tears streaming down my face to realize this. Everything in my life had taken a toll on my mental health. Everything was just miserable. I thought it over, through constant headaches and tears, until finally I had answer, “Dad, I will go.” It was not easy for me to say this, and once I had, my father called my mom, and before I knew it I was on a plane to Utah.
I would never be where I am today if it was not for Aspiro. My life is different in every aspect. The wilderness teaches you that life does not always provide you with everything you want. Fortunately, my parents were able to hand me anything I asked for, but I became too dependent on them. Everybody has hard times in life, but the hardest moments for me were in the wilderness. These are the times that change you as an individual, make you think, and help you realize why you ended up there. I had to learn to cope with things that were challenging, and encounter activities that were unprecedented in my life. Almost everyday of the week for two and half months, I carried a 45-pound pack on my back, and some days hiked for miles. I constantly reminded myself to persevere, knowing that when I came back home things there would also be challenging. If I refused to continue in the wilderness, then I would bring back home that same mentality, so I had to just get through it, and it would all be worth it. I had to continue pushing through, get right back up and keep working just like everybody else. It was not easy rock climbing on high mountains. However, I had to conquer my fears and doubts. I needed to push through activities like mountain biking, climbing, backpacking, or miles of walking, to learn that I was capable of being independent and expressing myself in front of others without the help of my family.
Also, allowing myself to open up to others including my therapist and group members, helped me to grow as an individual. Hearing other group members and their stories, allowed me to understand and take into account others hardships and added to my empathy and personal growth. There was a time when I was reading an impact letter from my parents outloud to my therapist. While reading it, there were certain points where I didn’t want to continue because I knew that the truth was finally hitting me. I could not call home, but I could talk to her about how I felt and work through those emotions. Her advice, support, and commitment to helping me along was an eye opening experience and was life changing. All of these experiences combined, helped me maneuver and figure out who I was, and who I have become as an individual.
When I came back to school, my teachers got the chills and cried when they heard my story. Nobody recognized me and they were surprised by the immense amount of progress I made in such a short time. I ended up being valedictorian and was able to speak at my high school graduation. Currently, I am a sophomore at Muhlenberg college and on the dean’s list. When you put in hard work, the outcome can be substantial!
It starts with the one person who can make the most difference in your life. You. You have the power to tell yourself YOU CAN DO IT! I now make it a priority to offer my guidance and support for other families, helping them to figure out positive next steps in life, just like Aspiro did for me.
I end with lyrics that are a favorite message of both me and my mother.
“There’s always gonna be another mountain. I’m always gonna wanna make it move. Always gonna be an uphill battle And sometimes I’m gonna have to lose. It ain’t about how fast I get there, Ain’t about whats waiting on the other side. It’s the climb.”
-Miley Cyrus, The Climb
Thank you to my parents for giving me this once in a lifetime opportunity, and allowing me to see this potential. If it was not for Aspiro, I am not sure where I would be currently. Family, friends, teachers, and last but not least, Aspiro – I cannot thank you enough for the constant support I have received throughout these last three years. You all are a blessing and hold a special spot in my heart.
The Adventure Therapy Model at Aspiro creates a space for girls to develop self efficacy and find confidence in their ability to do hard things. In addition to the many gains made through wilderness adventure therapy, a holistic approach in their treatment is crucial. Therefore, at Aspiro we incorporate therapeutic elements such as mindfulness and yoga, food attitudes and nutrition groups, and various forms of expressive therapy.
MINDFULNESS Mindfulness can be defined as, “a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.” Mindfulness helps provide our adolescent girls with a sacred foundation to develop healthy coping skills. Our girls practice yoga, meditation, body scans, and breathing exercises, allowing them to focus on current physical sensations and emotions. Our girls are able to work through any challenge, such as a snowstorm in the backcountry or a difficult climb up a sandstone slab, because mindfulness allows them to remain in their rational mind and make effective and honest choices, therefore influencing positive behavior. The girls enjoy their mindfulness practice and find that incorporating it into their daily routine helps them feel calm, centered and in control.
FOOD ATTITUDES Groups are held every week focusing on food attitudes and nutrition, how food can be good fuel or bad fuel for our bodies, and on body image and perception. The way our general culture and society speaks to adolescence regarding food and body image seems to support self criticism, competition, gluttony or extremism, and imbalance. Our girls are often beaten down, overwhelmed, and can have a very negative view of themselves. By introducing some mindfulness practices such as yoga and meditation; plus learning about food and how it can fuel the body, mind and soul; and getting moderate exercise and finding success through our various adventure activities, the girls at Aspiro begin to feel a real sense of accomplishment and start to see themselves in a different light. When this happens, they are much more likely to open up about the stresses of food, eating, and body image, and start to see their bodies and themselves as strong, capable, and deserving of a good and healthy life.
We all know that food and nutrition are the vital fuel for our brain and our bodies, and is a huge part of our social and cultural life. In our groups we discuss ideas around “food attitudes,” big and small, social messages about food, body image, individual perceptions, and struggles with food and control. We begin to learn how to reinvent our perception of our bodies as women. We don’t just talk about healthy food choices, though, we also teach the girls to prepare and enjoy a healthy and delicious meal as a group, which has quickly become a highlight of their week.
EXPRESSIVE ARTS THERAPY To help our girls enhance their emotional growth and to facilitate deeper transformation, the expressive arts are also an important part of treatment. The expressive arts help our girls to create deeper meaning out of their experiences, to tell their stories, and to dig further into their emotions in a safe way. Leigh Uhlenkott, one of our clinical wilderness therapists, says:
“I have always been drawn to experiential interventions, which is why I am passionate about wilderness therapy. I can be creative in my groups and when working with my clients individually. I want each of my clients to feel empowered and to get back on the healthy and successful path. Expressive arts and psychodrama can help create a corrective experience, bringing life to the unconscious and also grounding my clients to prevent further trauma. I want each of my clients to trust the process and do a deep dive into action and purpose. I want to help my clients explore past hurts and traumas in a safe place. Through psychodrama they can recreate the past and have a voice to express vulnerability and feelings. They can practice healthy boundaries and setting limits. Clients can gain greater insight and awareness through psychodrama and through expressive arts. When clients don’t yet have a voice that’s when the expressive arts are especially helpful. Through sculpting, painting, or drawing one can create images and metaphors symbolic of their past hurts or trauma’s. The goal is to get it out and learn to let it go. I believe all my students come to the woods with a bag full of past trauma or pain, and my hope is when they leave, it will be lighter and they will be full of accomplishments.”
Our vision at Aspiro is to empower these young women with a true and experiential understanding of the mind-body connection, to see their bodies as strong and capable, and to understand their relationship with food, finding the motivation to fuel their bodies with nutritious food choices. Through adventure therapy, individual and group therapy, mindfulness, yoga, and expressive arts, our girls have numerous ways in which they can work on their emotional growth, and are presented with opportunities to find what best resonates with them individually. We are excited about the great work done by these young ladies and the incredible changes they are making!
Aspiro is very excited to announce the promotion of Ryan Coley to Executive Director.
Ryan has been a part of the Aspiro team since 2009 and throughout his tenure has had the opportunity to work in the areas of Admissions, Program Development, Primary Therapist, and Clinical Director. Ryan has also helped to define and carry out the vision of Aspiro through a passionate dedication to innovation, client care, and customer service. He will continue to lead the Clinical Team in partnership with Associate Clinical Director, Dr. Carl Smoot.
Ryan states, “My focus and commitment is to influence and restore the families that come to Aspiro. The last nine years have been an inspiration and I look forward to helping Aspiro continue delivering the highest quality service.” Ryan’s impact on the clinical team has been profound and as the Executive Director, all departments will benefit from his dedication and leadership.
The Aspiro team is enthusiastic about Ryan’s transition into the role of Executive Director and looks forward to serving under his leadership for many years to come!
Best regards and many well wishes throughout 2018,
People are often intimidated by the idea of cold weather camping, but it can actually be the most powerful time of year to work with students at Aspiro and provides a great platform for therapeutic experiences. I want to highlight some of the little-known upsides of cold weather camping and how we keep our kids comfortable. I also want to prove that despite the cold, winter camping is profoundly impactful, highlighting the simple pleasures of field life. Below are the best tricks I’ve learned to get the most out of winter in the wilderness.
SNOW IS ACTUALLY YOUR FRIEND I imagine you are thinking that this isn’t the case, but the fact is that if you know how to use snow to your advantage, it can turn a cold night outside into a warm, cozy den. Our guides practice working with snow to their advantage, and often even prefer having snow around to help build elaborate shelters when the nights get cold. One can be as creative as possible and a snow shelter can rival a small palace. The possibilities are endless. Snow shelters and a high quality, – 40-degree sleeping bag, make for a warm night, no matter what is happening outside the shelter walls.
HOT DRINKS You will never appreciate warm tea like you do in a shelter after a big day in the snow. Students and staff learn to make it the way they like best, then repeat this, every chance they get. Tea also doubles as a jacket warmer: a warm water bottle, also called a “hottie”, becomes your own little portable space heater. Tuck it into your jacket, other layers, or even your sleeping bag to sleep warm all night.
STYLE IS EVERYTHING Yes, even in the wilderness style counts – just not how you think. Our students and guides are equipped with the right clothing for their adventures and also taught how to use it properly. Learning how to appropriately dress for cold is crucial for winter camping comfort. The right layers, in the right order, make a blustery day a literal walk in the park. First, field staff teach the students to use a wicking layer next to the skin to help move moisture and keep everyone dry. Next, layer on an insulating layer to keep that heat trapped in – think of a cozy fleece. Finally, a waterproof shell helps protect against the elements. Adding more layers to stay warm is always an option, and allows for warmth despite the weather.
WHEN IN DOUBT, DANCE IT OUT! You won’t see anyone just huddled up and stationery at Aspiro, because activity is key for winter warmth. Our students stay active during the day by participating in adventures such as hiking, skiing, climbing or biking. When back at camp, our groups all practice warm-up routines throughout chilly days in order to keep moving and stay warm and safe. They stretch, do exercises, or go for brisk walks to get moving. But the really savvy groups will dance. That’s right. When you are getting cold, the best solution is to jump around and have an impromptu dance party! Music optional.
PEACE AND SOLITUDE As I said before, winter adventuring can be intimidating for some. While many people stay inside during these months, at the Aspiro wilderness therapy program, we know we can skillfully create warmth and get out to the beautiful places Utah has to offer all year long. We are lucky to move through vastly different landscapes, and winter presents its own beautiful twist on the scenery. During winter we are able to access incredible places in the state that might be overpopulated in the spring or summer, but that are largely abandoned during the colder season. Often, we get the most popular spots in the state all to ourselves. Our groups take full advantage of the solitude and peace that comes from the lack of other visitors.
Winter is an incredible season that our students learn to truly appreciate. They relish in the quiet, find moments to reflect and practice mindfulness, discover gratitude for the beautiful landscapes, and learn what it takes to stay warm and enjoy it all!
It’s a hard time to be a teenage girl, and the pressures only seem to be accumulating. The drowning buzz of social media and social comparison, the unrealistic expectations our society puts on girls for thinness and beauty, and an increasingly competitive academic environment; combine that with the normative difficulties of adolescence, and you’ve got a crockpot full of struggle. While struggle, at times, can be motivating and the path to growth, for many teenagers, it is simply too much. This competitive, demanding, and at times, very unsafe environment our girls live in breed the most dangerous thing of all; a mentality of disempowerment. A mentality where women feel valued for only their physical attributes and accomplishments, rather than their genuine self, their values, their quirks, strengths and passions. They feel afraid and insecure of not being good enough, valued, capable and safe. It becomes easy for these girls to want to quit; to give up on the struggle, to succumb to the easiest or most available way out; be it drugs, sex, self-harming, isolating, or living in a tortured perfectionism. These are the girls I work with every day in wilderness therapy. Parents seem to struggle just as much in watching their daughters; wanting nothing more than for their daughters to be safe, to live up to their potential, and to see the beauty in themselves that they, as parents, see in them every day. It is hard for parents not knowing the right combination of boundaries, warmth, restrictions, and asking for outside help to guide their daughters through this complex and at times traumatic phase of life. It is difficult for them and for their daughters to see a light through the tunnel.
What is most beautiful about my work as a wilderness therapist though, is that I get to see this light at the end of the tunnel, and parents and their daughters have this opportunity, too. I see girls come in, dejected, afraid, and lacking a sense of themselves, often simply overwhelmed and shut down from the pain of the world and the confusion inside of them. Many of them don’t know they were in a ‘tunnel’ to begin with- they just know they felt sad or lonely. This is always the first step of our work in the wilderness: insight and understanding… understanding how and why life had become so stressed and dark. Often the girls know how to label it, “I have depression, I have PTSD, I have anxiety, I have trauma”. But they lack a deeper understanding of the pains that source these symptoms and issues, they lack the skill to cope, and they lack an environment that can slow down the buzz and distraction around them to help them tune into themselves and find their own capacity. Their parents need that break and that insight too, to reduce their own anxiety, which had often resulted in frustration and over-control. While there is never a perfect cure all to these struggles, to the society that forges them, or to the complex and long standing work it takes to heal, I am grateful to work in a setting gives these girls and parents a chance to break the regular paradigm to find a new strength inside. Today I will share and discuss some of my own insights, learnings and methods for treating the trauma and anxiety of teenage girls and young adult women through a wilderness therapy outlet.
Wilderness therapy seems nothing short of ‘bizarre’ for many of the teenagers and parents that we work with. It involves 8-12 weeks living completely in the outdoors, living out of a backpack of outdoor gear, surrounded by a group of other struggling teens and caring guides, mentors, and therapists. Each day, these girls are responsible for cooking their own meals, setting up and breaking down their camp, hiking, climbing or biking in a new area, and most importantly: to look deeply and introspect into some of the deepest and most meaningful areas of life. Most our students are scared out of their mind when they get here; their parents, too. But incredibly, in all this foreign and barebones outdoor living, comes a peace, and a space for true perspective and insight that is hard to match elsewhere.
Treating trauma in the wilderness, whether it is a discreet trauma such as abuse, rape, or the more daily accumulated trauma of failure and rejection, is a complex process. The goals of a short-term intensive intervention therapy such as wilderness therapy tend to center around behavioral/emotional stabilization, psychological assessment, and building insight and motivation toward change (intervention work). The treatment of trauma, on the other hand, is often looked at in the therapy world through a longer-term lens of processing and attachment- more than the typical 8-12 weeks a girl may stay in a wilderness therapy program. That said, after seeing many girls come and go through their stay in the woods, I know that the processing of their trauma is inevitable, as their healing in such a supportive and empowering environment comes so naturally. A trauma therapist for child protective services before coming to Aspiro Adventure Wilderness Therapy, I have worked intensely with trauma-focused evidenced based treatment modalities such as Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy for the treatment of post-traumatic stress, identity disorders, and anxiety issues. In wilderness therapy, the therapeutic work happens through a combination of intensive individual and group clinical therapy sessions (where I use TF-CBT and EMDR) plus what I like to call the ‘built in benefits’ of the wilderness and group living situation.
While living outdoors can be challenging and harsh at times, the tribal living and natural escape from daily pressures creates a perfect environment for these girls to develop a sense of safety, and a cleanse from the people, behaviors and expectations that may have bound them to a certain way of thinking beforehand. The moment they get a complete change of pace and a release from regular pressure and expectations; the floodgates of emotion open. The brain wants to heal itself when it has the opportunity to, and these girls find this out here in their wilderness ‘tribes’. The complete change of environment and perspective gives these girls (and their families) a chance to step outside the ‘tunnel’ and understand what was happening in their lives: to me, this is the first natural step of the trauma and anxiety work done in the wilderness (and I would argue it is often the necessary component missing from many regular outpatient modalities of trauma care). Imagine the force of an entire group (what we call the ‘tribe’) of young women working together on their person issues. A backbone of the great work these girls can do is the connection and strength they have together. This sense of ‘togetherness’ and ‘acceptance’ is key to making any of the other pieces of trauma work possible. We call it ‘emotional saftey’, something the everyday world seems to put little effort in. The camaraderie these girls develop through such a challenging, empowering and vulnerable experience is healing in and of itself. On top of that, healthy regularity of their daily schedule: eating good food three times a day, regular exercise, and a bunch of sunshine only further lends to creating an environment of growth and balance, and a space for these girls to do their hard emotional work.
One of the first teaching steps of all evidence based trauma therapies involves ‘affect regulation’- which means helping a person to express and understand their emotions and have skills to cope with their emotions so it does not overwhelm or hi-jack their lives. Before delving into in-depth trauma work, a person needs to be able to keep their ‘life together’, and deal with the difficult emotions that come up in trauma work. Coping-skill development and emotional communication is one of the 24/7 components of wilderness therapy- as ubiquitous as these kids learning to cook their beans and rice or layer their clothing properly. As you can imagine, the regular difficulties and discomforts of living outside with a group of angsty teens creates quite the outlet for expressing emotion and practicing skills. The Aspiro girls group practices daily Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills (an emotional regulation evidence based treatment) to learn how to tolerate their distress, modulate emotion, relate to others effectively, and practice mindfulness. Many students come to wilderness with some background in skills training (having been to previous outpatient and IOP programs). However, wilderness therapy gives them the space to practice these skills out loud and intentionally with one another, as well as in the moment feedback on how the girls are doing with their skills. Seeing the difference in the way a girl expresses her frustration or pain her first week (throwing down her pack, crying, shutting down) in wilderness as it compares to her last week (sharing a vulnerable “I feel” statement and creating solutions to her problem) is pretty incredible. These are skills they bring home, and skills we capitalize on in the therapy world to then access some of the deeper roots/cores of the issues; now that the girls can handle their big emotions more effectively.
The next major step of trauma work, as we employ it in the wilderness is ‘exposure’ component. ‘Exposure’ means finding calculated and specific ways to have a student explore a past painful experience through writing, speaking about it, or facing it head on. Most people with trauma or difficult experiences avoid triggers to their pain, whether that means they do not want to talk about the rape, the bullying, or whatever other invalidating and painful experience they may have had. As a therapist in the wilderness setting, I tailor the way I have each girl look at their pain based on what is likely to be the most effective way for them to express themselves. For some, it is a trauma narrative, where they write down the specific account of the trauma or they describe the pains they have experienced. I have had students do letter writing ceremonies with their group, where they write letters of their trauma, and then may ‘release’ their pain into a campfire, or they may ‘put it to rest’ symbolically in the ground. For some students, we may explore and process trauma through EMDR therapy, a memory based therapy where a person talks about their painful memories and is guided towards seeing the times they were more safe and more strong, to come to resolution. These girls learn to see that their narratives (as painful as they can be) have meaning, but do not need to define them, own then, or limit them. And their outlet to share these narratives in the group provides a space for mutual understanding and support that seems to only further the girls’ willingness to explore their painful issues. Once a student has explored and shared their trauma it becomes less scary and more accessible for others to support them. The next major step is ‘cognitive reprocessing’, where the therapists and guides help challenge a student on some of the ‘distorted, irrational or unhelpful’ ways she may have begun to see herself through the lens of trauma. For instance; a girl who has been raped may believe she ‘deserved it’ that she is ‘unworthy’ or ‘damaged goods’. A student who has been bullied may believe he/she is ‘incapable’, or ‘unacceptable’. We teach our students to ‘rethink’ the ways they began to see themselves using techniques in cognitive behavioral therapy and cognitive reprocessing.
Perhaps the most unique part of wilderness therapy, and particularly adventure wilderness therapy (where a student experiences a different adventure skill such as rock climbing, skiing or backpacking each week) is that a student gets to ‘challenge their negative ways of thinking about themselves’ and build self-efficacy and positive self-regard through having successes with totally novel experiences. Whether it be learning to ride a bike, reaching to top of a climbing wall, starting their first fire with a bow drill, or being vulnerable and shedding tears in front of their group; these students take on challenges day in and day out that build their sense of self and identity. With novel physical and emotional activities, students cannot as easily pull out their ‘measuring stick of comparison’. Some of the negative core beliefs they may harbor from failure or trauma; “I am not good enough, I am not capable, I am not worthy” are not challenged through talking (or through hearing it from Mom and Dad), but rather through doing. Seeing that little girl who came in broken and pained from the world, 3 weeks later proudly put on her harness and climb to the top of a wall with confident skills and bravery is something that keeps me coming back to my job every day. Student’s need to find their own sense of mastery to then really fill themselves with the belief that they can overcome and they can succeed. When they see themselves as capable and empowered, it gives them every bit more strength to face and overcome the struggles from the past.
Parents have an integral role in the processing of trauma as well, and while their feet may not be in the dirt each day, they take on leg-work every week to better understand and respond to their child’s needs. The space they from parenting and managing problems while their child is safe and in treatment, give parents the space to see their children in a different light. Parents get to practice seeing their child’s behaviors as a form of communication, and not a representation of their child’s self or character. As a therapist, I teach about trauma (whether it be major trauma or the small painful invalidations of life) as they accumulate to form the symptoms we see (the depression, anxiety, avoidance, identity confusion, etc). Week by week, parents learn empathic and effective ways to communicate with their kids and how to balance loving emotionality with boundaries. Often parents need to learn how to actually take a step back from over-involvement and over-control of their daughter’s emotions and pain, because for so long they were responsible for protecting and consoling their daughter’s emotions. But through the wilderness therapy process, with some space from the daily work of parenting and with specific training and skills work; parents learn to respond effectively to their daughter and to her pain. They learn to support her empowerment and processing so her good work can continue past her time in the wilderness.
Nature has a beautiful ability to heal, as does the human mind. We all have innate strength, love and resilience deep inside; but at times we need to dig deep and use some ‘heavy duty excavation tools’ to source that strength. I am grateful to work in an environment that so naturally lends to parents and children having the time, space and support to find peace and hope. Is wilderness therapy the end all be all of trauma therapies?; of course not. It is time limited, it is a highly novel environment that can make generalization to the ‘real world’ difficult at times, and unfortunately, it can be financially costly and difficult for many families to access. Most girls who do have the privilege to come and do this empowering and uplifting work, still need a great deal of support following their time in wilderness in a structured and therapeutic environment. That said, there is no denying that there is a very special healing space created out here through natural immersion, a supportive tribe, specific trauma-based therapeutic intervention and skill building, and an opportunity for self-confidence and mastery. It is an experience that truly generates hope, and helps a girl define herself apart from her difficult experiences and struggles . This ‘force of nature’ in wilderness therapy sets a stage for continued growth, healing and true connection with self and others…arguably the most beautiful gift a person can have. Personally, I look forward to many more years of serving young women and their families in this mission towards empowerment and am ever-grateful for having the best allies possible; mother nature and the resilience of the human spirit. Whichever therapeutic setting you work in or seek out; seeking challenging and novel experiences, being vulnerable and connected with others, immersing ourselves in the natural world (as opposed to the competitive and technological one) and honing in on our unbridled capacity are the keys to true healing and growth.
Ian Graduated Cum Laude from Westminster College with a BSN. He was introduced to the power of psychiatric nursing on rotations at University of Utah Neuropsychiatric Institute. During his tenure at UNI Ian discovered a passion for this field. He was then selected for a Post-Baccalaureate Nurse Residency Program at the VA hospital in Salt Lake City where he had a well-rounded experience working in every department of the hospital, including more time with psychiatric medicine.
Ian has 6 core emergency nursing certifications; BLS (Basic Life Support), ACLS (Advanced Life Support), PALS (Pediatric Advanced Life Support), TNCC (Trauma Nursing Core Course), ENPC Emergency Nursing Pediatric Course, and NRP (Neonatal Resuscitation Program).
Ian’s passion for nursing developed after his three-week-old son stopped breathing for over 4 minutes. After almost losing his son Ian reflected on the supportive, caring nurses in the hospital, and the impactful role they played in helping his family through a difficult time. He was then inspired to become a nurse to make such a difference for others.
Ian has been working in trauma and emergency nursing over last 2 years and enjoys helping people in times of crisis. Ian says, “Seeing the impact and changes that come from great medical care and intervention are what make my job so enjoyable, making it feel like it’s not really a job at all.”
When he isn’t working, Ian loves spending time with his wife and children outdoors; hiking, camping, boating, mountain biking, baseball, football, and soccer. He is an avid skier, snowboarder, rock climber, and mountain biker, which gives him great enthusiasm about Aspiro’s Adventure Therapy approach to treatment. Ian has found much confidence and satisfaction through adventure, as well as peace and healing in the outdoors.
“I absolutely love my job,” says Ian. “I love being able to make a difference in the lives of the patients I work with and I am excited to be a part of the Aspiro team and vision.”
Please help me in welcoming Ian to our team.
With Gratitude and Appreciation –
Shannon Weaver, LCSW Associate Director of Marketing & Outreach
While parenting a defiant or angry teen is extremely draining for parents, there are several key steps parents can take to help ease the contention and strain within home. Teenagers lack the emotional maturity and stability and therefore significantly rely on their parents to give them the help and direction they need. It is essential that parents do the best they can to love and support their teen while still keeping in mind that they cannot control their teen’s emotions or actions. The best thing parents can do is provide their teen with proper support within the home and seek appropriate external treatment to help the teen learn how to manage his or her emotions. For the next two weeks on the Aspiro blog, we will provide parents with strategies that can help manage a teen’s anger.
Create Boundaries and Expectations for Your Teen
Defiant and angry teens need clear rules that are tied to a clear consequence when he or she breaks the rule. Establish these rules and expectations during a calm time. Have a conversation with your teen so they know what to expect when the said rules are broken. Explain to your teen that these rules are to help keep him or her safe and free from harm. Express your love for your child.. Even angry teens want to know that their parents love and care about them.
Talk to Your Teen
Parents of angry teens may find it difficult to talk and communicate with their teen through the outburst and contention. During times of peace or once a teen has calmed down from their outburst, parents should try and talk to their teen about what is really bothering them. If the teen is willing to speak or share, do not judge or try and correct your teen. Simply listen to him or her without becoming angry.
Encourage a Healthy Lifestyle
Encourage a healthy lifestyle of physical exercise, healthy eating, and proper sleep. Creating a healthy lifestyle routine for your teen helps fosters good behavior in children and teens. This includes setting regular mealtimes and bedtimes, a set time to check-in with your teen, and regular exercise. Most of all, make sure your teen gets enough sleep. Sleep deprivation can increase stress, mood swings, irritability, and can also cause problems with weight, memory, concentration, and decision-making. All teens should get between 8-10 hours of sleep. Many parents find it helpful to achieve this having teens turn in their electronics two hours before bedtime to eliminate distractions.
Limit Technology Use
Parents should not just limit technology at bedtime. The overuse of technology or screen time is unhealthy for any teen. Too much screen time can not only aversely affect your teen’s sleep, it can also lead to irritability. Parents must monitor their teen’s technology use to ensure they are not consuming violent tv shows, videogames, movies, and music as they increase the likelihood of outbursts and violent behavior.
Do you know a teen struggling with anger management?
If a parent is concerned about the level of anger and defiance a teen is exhibiting, the first step is understanding what behaviors are normal for teens and which behaviors may indicate a more serious issue. If your teen is exhibiting one or more of the following behaviors, they likely have anger issues that require external help.
Physical Aggression or Violence
Excessive arguing with parents, teachers, and peers
Regular emotional outbursts
Irrational thinking and behavior
Cruel behaviors to people or animals
Any of the above behaviors are a red flag that your teen’s anger issues require professional treatment, in addition to parental support. If your teen’s anger extends beyond normal response to outside stressors and exhibits one or more of the above behaviors, the next step is to lay a parenting plan in place and consult with his or her physician.
Do you know a teen struggling with anger management?
There are many factors that can contribute to anger issues and defiance in teens. Every teen’s emotional regulation skill set, capacity and maturity is different. Some teens simply need more help in learning how to healthily manage their emotions and cope with stress. Other teens experience intense anger as a symptoms of a mental health issue, traumatizing life experience, or simply from the stress and pressures of adolescence. Some of these common triggers of severe anger in teens include:
Victim of bullying
Conflict within the family
Death of a loved one
In addition to the above list, an unresolved issue such as depression, anxiety, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, and oppositional defiant disorder can contribute to anger issues in teens. These disorders often impact social skills, self control, and impulse control which results in a teen being more prone to having angry outbursts.
Do you know a teen struggling with anger management?
The behavior of teens with anger and defiance issues exhibit extend far beyond the typical eye-rolling, slammed doors, and arguments between teen and their parent. Anger is a normal part of adolescence and can be a healthy emotional response to outside stressors. Anger is a secondary emotion for teens as it often masks other underlying issues including sadness, hurt, fear, and shame. When these underlying emotions become too much, a teen will often respond by lashing out. Because adolescence can be stressful, most teens will lash out from time to time. However, for teens with anger issues, emotional outbreaks are a regular occurrence.
Teens with serious anger issues are consumed with anger. These individuals can be defiant and may turn to violence, self harm, risky behavior, and illegal activity as a way to cope with their strong emotions. They may lash out with anger in response to outside stressors or an untreated or undiagnosed mental disorder. In the upcoming blog posts this month on the Aspiro blog, we will define common causes a teen defiance and the behaviors and patterns that fall outside of normal, starting with the causes and contributing factors of electronic addiction in teens.
Do you know a teen struggling with anger management?