While parenting a defiant or angry teen is extremely draining for parents, there are several key steps parents can take to help ease the contention and strain within home. Teenagers lack the emotional maturity and stability and therefore significantly rely on their parents to give them the help and direction they need. It is essential that parents do the best they can to love and support their teen while still keeping in mind that they cannot control their teen’s emotions or actions. The best thing parents can do is provide their teen with proper support within the home and seek appropriate external treatment to help the teen learn how to manage his or her emotions. For the next two weeks on the Aspiro blog, we will provide parents with strategies that can help manage a teen’s anger.
Create Boundaries and Expectations for Your Teen
Defiant and angry teens need clear rules that are tied to a clear consequence when he or she breaks the rule. Establish these rules and expectations during a calm time. Have a conversation with your teen so they know what to expect when the said rules are broken. Explain to your teen that these rules are to help keep him or her safe and free from harm. Express your love for your child.. Even angry teens want to know that their parents love and care about them.
Talk to Your Teen
Parents of angry teens may find it difficult to talk and communicate with their teen through the outburst and contention. During times of peace or once a teen has calmed down from their outburst, parents should try and talk to their teen about what is really bothering them. If the teen is willing to speak or share, do not judge or try and correct your teen. Simply listen to him or her without becoming angry.
Encourage a Healthy Lifestyle
Encourage a healthy lifestyle of physical exercise, healthy eating, and proper sleep. Creating a healthy lifestyle routine for your teen helps fosters good behavior in children and teens. This includes setting regular mealtimes and bedtimes, a set time to check-in with your teen, and regular exercise. Most of all, make sure your teen gets enough sleep. Sleep deprivation can increase stress, mood swings, irritability, and can also cause problems with weight, memory, concentration, and decision-making. All teens should get between 8-10 hours of sleep. Many parents find it helpful to achieve this having teens turn in their electronics two hours before bedtime to eliminate distractions.
Limit Technology Use
Parents should not just limit technology at bedtime. The overuse of technology or screen time is unhealthy for any teen. Too much screen time can not only aversely affect your teen’s sleep, it can also lead to irritability. Parents must monitor their teen’s technology use to ensure they are not consuming violent tv shows, videogames, movies, and music as they increase the likelihood of outbursts and violent behavior.
Do you know a teen struggling with anger management?